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Inaction? I am in-action!

Sep 18, 2022

 

What you are reading right now, was first, partially, published in Norwegian a couple of years ago and is a timeless piece of wisdom!

 

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”
- Stephen Covey

Both pros and cons have been witnessed with the multi-directional evolution of the human race. Fatal implications on homo sapiens, flora, and fauna are the consequences of wrong decisions. This teaches us the importance of taking RIGHT DECISIONS AT THE RIGHT TIME!

 

The spiritual teacher Michael Beckwith has defined ‘Intention Deficit Disorder’ as a critical condition most human beings are suffering right now.

So LIVE in the moment. Enjoy. Inhale new, inspiring thoughts for your path ahead.

 

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Think…

You came into this world.

This place.

You saw it through your eyes.

Eventually you realized that you were an individual, detached from the surroundings and the people around you. As a toddler, you made all the efforts in the world to gain traction in order to be heard.
"Hey! This is me! Wow, I actually have my own opinions! Look at me! Listen!
Hello-ooooo!"

 

Then you worked hard to get a personality, to become the person who stood out from everyone else. Simultaneously, you also had to adapt to other people and socialize to become a part of the herd, to be like everyone else!

 

Think again…

You're not the only one who finds it hard to strike this difficult but much needed balance.

 

After all these years, you've finally, or maybe only partially, figured out who you are (although very few people actually know... just ask around). Still personal decisions scare you, so have you really found your way?

 Here you had been working around the clock, year after year, to acquire an identity, and then someone comes and expects you to make big decisions that could potentially turn all upside down? Isn't it safer NOT to make choices, and NOT to make decisions?

 

And here we are at the core: Every single day you make hundreds of conscious or unconscious decisions. They start with you opening your eyes after a long night's sleep, before you decide to go into the bathroom, brush your teeth, make tea, choose unhealthy food for healthy food or vice versa. Read an online newspaper. Check email and phone. And so on. "Well, so what?" you might be thinking.

 

I'll tell you: "What then" will be the life you look back on in 20, 40 and 60 years. Your life becomes the accumulation of all the decisions you make every minute and every hour of the day. And you know what? When we say we are NOT making a decision (because it is safest that way), we are actually making one of the biggest and perhaps most critical decisions of our lives.

 

And now I ask you to pay close attention because the psychology of judgment and decision-making is an important concern in human psychology. You’ll understand better with an excerpt from a TED interview with American Tim Ferriss, a well-known author and entrepreneur (by the way, had he not come out of his depression, but managed to carry out what he wanted, namely to end his life at an early age, the world would have missed of very much).
In one place he says something that I can completely agree with:
The consequences of being passive and not actively making decisions.

 

The TED interview – Tim Ferriss – on life hacks:

"… and this is really important. I would say it is the most overlooked psychologically, which is: What is the cost of inaction? To me, and to those I care about? Those people around me. If I change nothing. If I continue exactly what I am doing. What are the costs, say six months, twelve months, three years from now. Emotionally, financially, physically, if I don't change anything. What that does to a lot of people, is show them that the biggest risk, if we are defining risk as the likelihood of an irreversible negative outcome, is actually continuing to do what you are doing. Which you might think of as not changing anything or not making a decision, but you ARE making a decision. You are making a decision to remain in your pattern. Whatever that pattern is."

So, every time you think you actively fail to make a decision - because you are unsure, because it implies uncertain consequences, because you don't bother or whatever the reason is, - how does it affect you and yours (emotionally, physically, financially)?
You make a decision to stay in a pattern you have created yourself. Many will, for example, hold on to a job or maintain an illness, because it brings benefits, or because it is scary to change jobs or get well. Because it involves change. Change with uncertain outcomes. We get stuck in the Unknowns.

And to take it a little further: A pattern - isn't it almost like a monster? Can't we all become monsters if we cling to old habits and refuse to change?

Trust me, you are yet clay and not pottery! Your brain is plastic, which means that YOU have the ability to change your life. Anyone who claims otherwise, and says "that's just the way I am", has a bad will or lives a fearful life.

"If I change, high demands will be placed on me. I don't dare".

"No, I can't change. I'm going to fail, and make a fool of myself."

STOP! Life is now. If you fail to make a decision, if you fail to come out with your whole self, show the world who you are, contribute the gift you have inside you, never reach your full potential, fear will rule you until you go in the grave. You are failing those who need you the most. You steal from those who depend on you here and now. You are ruining them and yourself. The world is missing out on the whole, unique you!

This indecisiveness comes at a cost, a cost I am also emphasizing in my book, Evighetens perspektiv (written in Norwegian).

I know where the most cynical, angry, frustrated, envious people come from; a place resulting where they haven’t acknowledged their gifts, as they never dared to live their dream, but instead chose not to act and watch life happen without them. It is a dungeon, which they can’t escape from. So in order to maintain a certain balance, they project their pain outwards.

 

Do not become the next angry, frustrated person with lack of good intention and all the problems that come along with it.

We all know what the world needs right now. And so, you will never again ask “What am I supposed to do?” “Why am I here?”

 

Do not become the next person with Intention Deficit Disorder.

Just follow that path. Your path!

 

✅ Take action.

✅ Today.

✅ Right now.

Contact me to know how!

https://www.themetacognitian.com/contact

With a click, watch MAGIC entering your life.

 - Namaste -


Monica

The Metacognitian



PS: Want to read my Bachelor Thesis in Cognitive Psychology on the subject, within the exciting realm of Judgement and Decision Making Processes and Bias, in the Legal System?
Download here (Norwegian): 

https://www.academia.edu/4418151/Bacheloroppgave_kognitiv_psykologi_Monica